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Boundaries Pathway Session a Big Success
On December 10, 2025, NCPSG hosted a Pathway Session on Setting Boundaries to Promote Recovery. Jacqueline Barbaro, LPC, a Westport-based therapist, was the speaker. She has a long track record working with families and their loved ones struggling with addiction.
Jacqui started off with her thoughts on how to set boundaries, They included:
- Be clear and direct.
- Be consistent.
- Expect pushback from your consistent boundaries.
- Separate the person from the behavior. (It’s the behavior you won’t tolerate.)
Given the likelihood of pushback, Jacqueline gave examples of things parents could say, including “I love you and I will not give you money”, “We can talk when things are calm”, and “If you come home intoxicated, you can’t stay here”.
It’s important to have boundaries around physical aggression. Reasonable consequences to aggression are: 1) calling the police; and 2) “you won’t be able to stay here.” If the conversations are particularly difficult, then use a public space or a therapist’s office to meet.
For those parents ready to set boundaries, start with the “baby NOs”. Example: “in two months’ time, you are going to be paying for your own phone”. Build on your success. Remember, your happiness is NOT going to be based on another person. It’s a fact.
It’s key that a parent does not react and create drama. Instead, be the proactive “neutral party” at all times. This will promote safety and stability.
There was an extensive Q&A period where a number of parents asked boundary questions regarding: 1) substance use while living at home; 2) drug testing; and 3) money
To access the YouTube replay of the Pathway Session, CLICK HERE.
